The Joy of Children, The Joy of God's Word

A Cursing or Blessing?

Bowing my words…

Okay, so anyone who knows me in person knows that I am a woman of very few words.  So, why am I blogging about bowing my words?  Well, I really don’t talk much … except with my kids.  I am a typical stay at home mom who must communicate with her children.  Any mom who has lost her voice and has experienced being home alone with one, two, three, or yes - maybe even four little ones knows how difficult it is to not  talk with your kids throughout the day! So, in a normal day, I must give instructions, discipline, explain, question, answer questions, paraphrase, interpret cries and toddler speech, help resolve conflicts, pray over hurts, etc.  Whew!  For someone who doesn’t like to talk much, I sure have to do a lot of it =) 

And, with that much talking throughout the course of the day, it brings about many opportunities to stumble in regards to words - word choices, tone of voice, and words thought through (or not) before being spoken.  Will my words be a cursing or a blessing to my children each day?  Will my words be filled with encouragement or discouragement towards my little ones?  I must remember Proverbs 12:18…

 Reckless words pierce like a sword,
       but the tongue of the wise brings healing.

Dillow states, in her book Satisfy My Thirsty Soul, that “bowing our words as an act of worship is not easy.  It is a sacrifice, an offering.”     I want to bow my words so that they bring healing, blessing, and encouragement to those around me.  So, instead of words doused with a harsh, angry tone, I need to be slow to speak and quick to listen and to remember to fill my speech towards my children with qualities found in Ephesians5:19-20…

Speak to one another with psalms, hymns and spiritual songs.
Sing and make music in your heart to the Lord,
always giving thanks to God the Father for everything,
in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Lord Jesus, help me not to grieve the Holy Spirit with my words and tone of voice towards my children.  Help my words to be encouraging and a blessing.  May you help my words to be timely, gentle, and loving.  Amen.

The Joy of God's Word

Entering His Gates

Shout for joy to the Lord, all the earth. 
Worship the Lord with gladness.  Come before him with joyful songs.
Know that the Lord is God.  It is he who made us, and we are his.
We are his people, the sheep of his pasture. 
Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise
Give thanks to him and praise his name.
For the Lord is good and his love endures forever. 
His faithfulness continues through all generations. 
Psalm 100

I have been reading some of my long awaited books that are next to the nursing chair Satisfy My Thirsty Soul: For I am Desperate For Your Presence by Linda Dillow is the first one that I am working my way through.   I don’t know why, but I was surprised to discover that the way to be closer to God is through worshipping Him.  That is the very thing I love to do - I love to sing His praises!  Could it be that simple?  Dillow states, “Worship can satisfy our thirsty souls.”  It “is the path to experiencing the presence of God.”  We can give our Lord honor, thanksgiving, and praise.  She details several practical ways for anyone, including busy moms, to worship God such as …

  • the ABC’s of worship in which you think through each letter of the alphabet Aa-Zz and think of as many words that begin with that letter that describes God (for example, for Aa  ’My God is awesome, amazing, my Abba Father, etc….’)
  • finding stillness by creating time for either a retreat (a longer time of worship alone with God) or what she calls ‘little solitudes’ in each day (For example, while nursing I could pray, while folding the laundry I could praise God through the ABC’s of worship, while in the car with my children running errands we can sing along to worship music, while kids are napping, etc.)
    I loved how Dillow said that “the outward clamor of my busy life and the continual inward chatter caused by restlessness has kept me from the blessing of stillness and the felt presence of God.”  Oh, how I can relate!  In addition to a retreat and/or ‘little solitudes’, she suggested always having a pen and piece of paper on hand during your times of prayer and worship.  That way, when inevitable distractions pop up (like thinking of things that need to get done today), just jot them down quickly and continue worshipping.
  • searching out a special place to worship (She gave examples of moms who would pray in the closet or worship with headphones on in their walk in pantry for a few minutes of solitude.  A couch, a special chair, a place outside… anywhere!)
  • and finding music that lifts your spirit and leads you to worship

We can worship with songs and praises, but Dillow continues to expand upon what worship is.  She explains how I can worship God with all of my life.  I can bow my life, everything, before Him as an act of worship.  Dillow states, “True worship will lead to holy obedience.”   As a true act of worship I can and should bow my words, my attitude, my work, my times of waiting, my pain, and my will.  Now, I have not read all of these chapters yet, but the first two on bowing my words and attitude have already convicted me.  I hope to write my reflections on some of these chapters in upcoming entries.

Psalm 63:1-8
O God, you are my God, earnestly I seek you.
My soul thirsts for you.  My body longs for you, 
in a dry and weary land where there is no water. 
I have seen you in the sanctuary and beheld your power and your glory.
Because your love is better than life, my lips will glorify you. 
I will praise you as long as I live, and in your name I will lift up my hands.
My soul will be satisfied as with the richest of foods.
With singing lips my mouth will praise you.
On my bed I remember you. 
I think of you through the watches of the night.
Because you are my help, I sing in the shadow of your wings.
My soul clings to you.  Your right hand upholds me.

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Next to the Nursing Chair

Our baby Olive made it safe and sound into the world one week ago today.  Praise God!  You can read details about her birth on my husband’s blog.  (Yes, he blogged her birth - just a sign of the times I guess.)  At this point, she sleeps and eats … and then sleeps and eats some more = )  A typical one week old who has already stolen our hearts with her sweet, sleepy smiles, her great big yawns, and her ‘I’m not quite awake’ stretches.  Oh yes, she cries and tends to have her days and nights mixed up still, but let’s not think about that right now.  With all of the ’round the clock feedings happening this past week, I realized that for the next few months I get to do something I haven’t been able to do a lot of in the past year or so…  I get to read again!

So, next to the nursing chair, squeezed in with my nursing arsenal (my glass of water, my feeding chart, my Lansinoh, my Medela pump, etc.)  are several books I have been waiting to read…

  • Satisfy My Thirsty Soul: For I am Desperate For Your Presence by Linda Dillow 
    (I have read Calm My Anxious Heartby this same author.   I still refer back to it!  I enjoy the way she writes and how she uses biblical references and personal experiences to speak to me and challenge me in areas tht I am struggling with. )
  • Having a Mary Spirit by Joanna Weaver 
    (I’ve read her first book about Mary and Martha - Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World and could relate well!  I look forward to this second one.)
  • Feminine Appeal: Seven Virtues of a Godly Wife and Mother by Carolyn Mahaney 
    (My sister in law bought this for me two Chrismas’ ago!  I am ashamed to say that I started it, but never got to finish it.)
  • My Bible!
    (I’ll have no excuse for missing my daily reading and devotions for awhile!)

I can’t wait to delve into these books - to refresh my spirit, to glean from other Christian women, and to study and apply God’s Word .. even if it is at 2:30 in the morning when everyone else is asleep =)

Homeschool

Homeschooling - a Day in the Life

I just discovered a new, encouraging, online homeschooling magazine called The Heart of the Matter.  They are having a weekly meme and this week’s entry is to share a typical homeschooling day.  Being fairly new to homeschooling,  I have been loving reading each family’s daily routine

Below, I am hesitantly sharing what we do - a Day in the Life with our Kindergartner, almost 4 year old preschooler, and our just turned 2 year old toddler.  Oh, and this homeschool mommy is pregnant with blessing number four and expecting in 2 weeks =)   So, our ‘typical’ day and routines will be changing soon!

6am - My alarm goes off and mommy tries to get up (usually I’m up no later than 6:30am though), shower, daily Bible reading and meditation on God’s Word, prepare breakfast drinks for the kids (This may sound silly, but it is my way of prepping for the breakfast rush as I prefer to not have a toddler wrapped about my ankles or hanging on my side as I pour 6 glasses of liquids - 1 milk and 1 juice cup each.), eat my breakfast in the peace and quiet before little ones awake, and check email.  This is all accomplished on a good day =)

7:10-7:30am  - Our toddler usually awakes at some point during this time , is changed, dressed, and cuddled.  Then he tends to play with his trains while mommy sneaks in a load of laundry and makes the bed.

7:30am - Big sisters awake, get dressed, make beds (if they remember), and come downstairs for breakfast  (They may awake earlier than this, but per advice of some other moms, we have recently made a rule that they can’t come downstairs until 7:30am (mainly for mommy’s sanity=) . )

After breakfast, the kids brush their teeth, comb their hair, finish making beds, and play/read a little.

We try to start school no later than 9am.  We head downstairs to the basement playroom - which is a welcome and much loved addition to our home this fall! 

We usually begin with our Calendar Time and focus in on the following….
Adding the new date card and stating fully, adding a tally mark for the number of days in the month,  saying the pattern for the month’s cards, talking about yesterday/today/tomorrow, checking the weather and adding a picture and sentence that describes the weather, marking on our weather graph, adding a straw for the number of days in school, singing songs such as ‘This is the Day’, ‘Seven Days’, and the ABC Song (using sounds instead of letters)   (Our K and preschooler, usually, are involved with this, and sometimes the toddler joins us for songs and to tries to take out the straws =) )

Math Time with my K student is typically next.  We are working our way through the Bob Jones University (BJU) Math lessons and corresponding workbook.   I am not an avid proponent of workbooks and worksheets for K and lower, but my daughter absolutely loves this approach.  This doesn’t mean we don’t do the active hands on though also with her!   During this time, 2 days a week, my preschooler also has some type of sorting, patterning, or counting and ordering hands on math activity to do.  My toddler plays, brings us things, sits on my lap, etc.

Bible and Character Focus
We have been following the Bible and Rhyme for 3’s this year for this time as well as memory verses from the girls’  AWANA program at church.   We typically introduce and read a new Bible story each week and then do related devotionals and sing songs / read related children’s books throughout the week.  (Both girls participate in this and the toddler plays or comes to sit and listen.)

Literacy Focus
Our kindergartner reads from her BJU reading booklet, a decodable book, and then chooses 3 additional books to reread to us.  Her preschool sister loves to sit and listen to her read and then takes the book and ‘pretend’ reads it!   Two days a week, our K child will also write in her Daily Writing Practice Book.  I got the idea from another Kindergarten teacher’s website.

Next, we will usually head upstairs for a snack and continue literacy at the kitchen table.  Our K child will write in her writing notebook and complete one or two pages in her Explode the Code phonics workbook.  Her preschool sister, depending on the day, will either be introduced to an alphabet letter that is related to this week’s Bible story and make related letter art or do a letter sort, picture sound sort, or practice letter formation in a tactile way.  (After eating his snack, our toddler either colors, looks at books at the table, watches Blues Clues, plays with some nearby toys, or clings to mommy =) )

Book/Theme a Week
This changes each week and is a time for more literacy, math, and art connections and/or a science and social study focus related to a children’s book or a holiday related theme.  Most of the ideas come from Story Lessons for K and/or the Bible and Rhyme Lessons for 3’s.  For example, last  week was a theme centered around Jan Brett’s book The Mitten and we focused on winter weather, winter wear, snow, and snowmen.  Some art projects can be done with our toddler around and participating (which he loves!), but sometimes we opt to do some of these activities at the start of rest time later in the day,

Missionary Story/Chapter Book
This is something I have been wanting to incorporate all year, but have been failing to do so!  I have just recently purchased books from Youth With a Mission (YWAM) and am trying to figure out a good time of day to incorporate these.

By this point in the day, we are all very ready for a lunch break!  This is usually when we end our ‘official’ school day.  After lunch is free play and stories.  Then comes nap for the toddler (and mommy at this point) and rest/quiet play for the K and preschooler. 

After naps/quiet rest time is snack and more free play, stories, and some more Blues Clues.  Then dinner prep and a chorus of ‘Daddy!!!!’ sung out once daddy comes home =)

And that is it - a day in the life of our growing homeschool family =)

The Joy of Children

Seeing Christ in Christmas

Each December, we work our way through the Nativity Story as found in the Bible.  We do daily, sequential readings and related crafts with our three young children.  No account of the Christmas story would be complete, however, without knowing and sharing why Jesus came and why His birth was and continues to be so important to each one of us.

In 1 John 4, verses 9 through 10, it states that, ” This is how God showed His love among us:  He sent His One and Only Son into the world that we might live through Him.  This is love:  not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent His Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. ”  1 John 4:14 continues to say, “…we have seen and testify that the Father has sent the Son to be the Savior of the World.”
Without Christ, we would still be heaped in our sins and completely seperated from God - without HOPE.

This was recently written from the heart of our 5 1/2 year old daughter right before delivering Christmas Gospel Cookies to our neighbors…
‘I hope you will know God the Father in Heaven and He will forgive…I hope that you will know that He is the Christ.’

Lord, December seems to be such a  busy time - with gift giving and cards (and this year preperation for a new little one joining our family).  Please help me to keep in the forefont of my mind this busy Christmas season the gracious gift of Your Son, Jesus - My Savior.  Help me to continually see Christ in Christmas.

Homeschool

The School Bus Came and Went

…and my children are content on the couch, in their pajamas, reading books, and enjoying each other’s company before breakfast.  Today was the first day of school for the kids in our community that attend public school.  However, today will be the seventh day of school for our family’s homeschool. 

Several other homeschool moms have asked, ‘Why did you start so early?’  There are several reasons really.

  1. We are expecting our fourth child in early February and I knew we would need to take some time off upon his or her arrival…
  2. I don’t want us to still be doing ‘official’ school once summer comes…
  3. I knew that today would be very hard for me!

You see, we live on a corner lot in our neighborhood and the school bus stops right at our corner every morning and afternoon.  It is a constant reminder to me of what the ‘norm’ is and how ‘different’ the choice to homeschool our children this year is.   What I think is even more difficult is that when I see that yellow school bus each day, it also brings up emotions in me of inadequacy and questioning in my abilities to educate our children at home.

In Psalm 32:8, the Lord says  ’I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go.  I will counsel you and watch over you.’   Lord, I trust Your leadng.  Help me to dispell these insecurities and fear of man. 

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God is Sovereign in All of Life

God is sovereign in all of life. 10 week ultrasound

We are expecting our fourth child.  The girls are excited and often ask, “How big is the baby?”  We were reading in Your Pregnancy Week by Week by Glade Curtis that by week nine, the baby is ‘the size of a medium green olive’.  He or she…

  • has longer fingers now and the tips are slightly enlarged where touch pads are forming,
  • has toes that are formed and feet that are more recognizable,
  • has eyelids that almost cover the eyes,
  • has external ears that are evident and well formed,
  • can move its body, arms, and legs.

God is sovereign in all of life, intricate in every detail.  How amazing is our God?!

Psalm 139:13-16 states…
For you created my inmost being.
You knit me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
Your works are wonderful, 
I know that full well.
My frame was not hidden from you 
when I was made in the secret place. 
When I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
Your eyes saw my unformed body. 
All the days ordained for me 
were written in your book 
before one of them came to be.

Thank you, Lord, for this precious little life You are creating inside.

We had an ultrasound today.  We got to see our little 10 week old ‘olive’ =)  He or she has a strong heartbeat and is measuring well.  However, it was discovered that there are two small blood clots in my uterus, causing some slight bleeding.  I wanted the doctor to say that everything would be all right, but she didn’t.  She said we’d have to wait and see…. God is still sovereign.   If God decides to help this little one thrive, blessed be the name of the Lord.  If God chooses to take this little life home to be with Him early, blessed be the name of the Lord.  Will it be painful and will there be many tears?  Yes, of course!  But, He is my Lord and I will trust in Him.  ’Oh God, You are my God.  And I will ever praise You.’   May I take to Him all my anxious thoughts and truly trust in Christ, my Lord and Savior.

You will keep in perfect peace him whose mind is steadfast, because He trusts in You.  (Isaiah 26:3)  

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Here I Am To Worship

I have been listening to  Praise Baby: Born to Worship with my toddler off and on since last week.  To be honest, my two older children love to sing along with it as well =)   The song, below, is one of the ones used on the DVD.  It is now continually running through my head and I will sometimes burst out singing it while playing with the kids!   

“Here I Am To Worship”
(Song by Tim Hughes) 

Light of the world, 
You stepped down into darkness.
Opened my eyes, let me see.
Beauty that made this heart adore you 
Hope of a life spent with you.

And here I am to worship,
Here I am to bow down,
Here I am to say that you’re my God,
You’re altogether lovely,
Altogether worthy,
Altogether wonderful to me.

King of all days,
Oh, so highly exalted 
Glorious in heaven above.
Humbly you came to the earth you created.
All for love’s sake became poor.

Here I am to worship,
Here I am to bow down,
Here I am to say that you’re my God,
You’re altogether lovely,
Altogether worthy,
Altogether wonderful to me.

I’ll never know how much it cost to see my sin upon that cross.
I’ll never know how much it cost to see my sin upon that cross.
I’ll never know how much it cost to see my sin upon that cross.
No, I’ll never know how much it cost to see my sin upon that cross.

Here I am to worship,
Here I am to bow down,
Here I am to say that you’re my God,
You’re altogether lovely,
Altogether worthy,
Altogether wonderful to me. 

So, here I am to worship,
Here I am to bow down,
Here I am to say that you’re my God… 

What an awesome God we serve AND we get to worship Him through song! 

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The Why of the Cross

As a follow up to previous blog entries, I asked my oldest daughter an important ‘Why’ question today that I think we all need to reflect upon.  I asked her “Why did Jesus die?”  Here is her response… To save the world (us) from our sins.  To die on the cross.  And to rise again.  So we can be in heaven with Him.    (From the mouth of a 5 year old!)  

 ”Now my heart is troubled, and what shall I say?  ‘Father, save me from this hour?’  No, it was for this very reason I came to this hour.  Father, glorify your name!”  These are Jesus’ words in John 12:27-28 when He was speaking of His death.  In C.J. Mahaney’s book, Living the Cross Centered Life, he states that Jesus was not “surprised by death’s approach.  He long ago determined to bear God’s judgement for sin as our substitute, and for months He ..discussed His death repeatedly with His disciples.”  Christ knew why He was sent, why He was here - His purpose.  In Mark 10:45, Jeus tells us that “For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life as a ransom for many.”  He knew that there was no other way for us to be reconciled with God.  Our debt had to be paid and only He, the sinless One, could pay it.  He lovingly laid down His life for us, taking on our sins and unrighteousness and thus the wrath and abandonment by His Father – that we rightly deserve. 

Mahaney states, “Behold Him…behold His suffering…and recognize His love.” 

Thank You.  Thank You, Lord Jesus.  May I never lose sight of You and Your sacrifice for me.

 

 

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Answering the Why (Part 2)

It is important to tell and remind children why we instruct them in certain ways.  Just as we look to the Bible to see which instructions we need to give our children and for guidance on how to train them, we can look to God’s Word to help us explain the ‘whys’ behind the instructions.  Here are a few examples from Scripture where God clearly answers this ‘why’ question for us.

  • Children obey your parents“ 
    Why?   “for this pleases the Lord.”     Colossians 3:20
  • Honor your father and mother
    Why?   “—which is the first commandment with a promise— that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”   Ephesians 6:2-3
  • Do everything without complaining or arguing.”
    Why?  “so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which you shine like stars in the universe as you hold out the word of truth…”   Philippians 2:14-16a
  • Give thanks to the Lord
    Why?  “for He is good.”      Psalm 136:1a
  • Thy word have I hid in my heart
    Why?  “that I might not sin against Thee.”      Psalm 119:11
  • We love
    Why?  “because He first loved us.”      1 John 4:19
  • “Do not be terrified.  Do not be discouraged.”
    Why?  “For the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”  Joshua 1:9b
  • Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.  In all your ways acknowledge Him.”
    Why?  “And He will make your paths straight.”      Proverbs 3:5-6

This has been exciting to see!  May God continue to open our eyes to how we can use His Word for training in righteousness (first in ourselves and then our children =) )    For 2 Timothy 3:14-17  says “…continue in what you have learned and have become convinced of, because you know those from whom you have learned it, and how from infancy you have known the holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus.  All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting, and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.”

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